When things go wrong in life it is a reminder to not take them personally, and likewise a great reminder that when things are going great, to also not take them personally. When we are at the height of a debilitating illness or going through one of life’s major crises, it is not the time to be hearing someone telling you to “not take it personally”, it lacks the empathy and grace to be able to stand with someone in their misfortune. But when life is merely throwing curve balls as it often does, we can gain a modicum of perspective. A better phrase would probably be to “not to take experience personally”. Then we can lose the echo of judgement that so often accompanies the ‘don’t take it personally’ cry, and bring the real meaning back to where it belongs. That what we are experiencing is simply passing phenomena, arising and passing away. This body, this mind, are innately impersonal. When we are able to let go of the grip that any experience has over us, we can fall back into that place of calm abiding. When we are able to view experience as truly impersonal, we can live more freely in the here and now.